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I think this idea works great- in some scenarios. And I feel it works best with younger kids, for example:
Kid (3): Mom, Kaitlyn hit me.
Mom: Jacob, I bet you wish Kaitlyn would tell you what she wants instead of hit you. And Kaitlyn, you need to express your anger with words, not punches.
This is a situation when the technique works fine. But this is one where I feel like I'd just stay mad.
Kid (13): Maggie took all the cookies out of my lunch, and now there's no more cookies left.
Mom: You wish she'd leave some for you next time. You must be angry.
If I were the kid, I would think, yes, I am angry, but telling me that doesn't get me my cookies back. Maggie's a horrible sister!
So, you see, overall this is a great, helpful book. But like anything, there are things that can be adapted to fit your family. What do you think? Is this technique good or bad, or both?